In today’s world, people are constantly bombarded with things they want, they have to have, they are dying to have (if you have a 12 year old at home! :-)) and therefore you are constantly focusing on what you DON’T have, rather than paying attention to all that you have already.
It is scientifically proven that we are wired by evolution to worry and to foresee the worst possible outcome. Our ancestors needed this to be able to survive and in turn we have become worry buddies!
We naturally tend to worry, to see the worst possible outcome and prepare for it.
And in doing so, we don’t pay attention to all that is going right. All those little things that we take for granted because they are not worrisome. Granted they are not as important on a day to day basis, but they make for our quality of life.
I am ok now!
Everyday with my clients, when doing EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) or Tapping, I use a reminder phrase, which goes like that: Even if I have this or that problem, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” Now, some people react to the last part of the phrase, feeling that it is too touchy-feelly and not in line with who they are. Or they don’t understand it. So I use variation to that set up phrase, such as I am ok now. It is a gentle reminder that while we are focusing on a problem or a difficult emotion, at this point in time, when they are with me in my office, it is safe and they are ok. They are breathing and nothing is threatening them in that present moment.
People are always astonished to acknowledge that indeed in that present moment, as we speak, they are fine. They may have had difficult time before, and they may be facing complicated situations moving forward, but right at that moment, they are fine.
It always amazes me that people forget that simple truth: Most of the time, we are ok Now in that present moment!
Being Grateful is a way to focus our mind on the positive.
Being grateful is a way to remember all the moments when we have been ok during the day. Because no matter how bad a day it has been, there has been moments when you have been ok. You may not have paid attention to them, but they were there.
I know from experience that sometimes, the only thing you can be grateful for is that you are alive and breathing. Nothing else comes to mind. Fine! That’s perfect!
And some times, it will feel like there is not enough space in the imparted time to cover all the things you are grateful for. Great! Enjoy! Truly!
But if you do this exercise long enough, you will notice something quite peculiar. Your mind is going to start focusing “also” on the positive in your life, so that you won’t have to search too long when it will be time to be grateful, at the end of the day.
People talked about stopping during the day and thinking: “This moment is clearly at the top of my list of things to be grateful for today”
How is this happening?
You are training your brain, like a muscle, one day at a time, to see the positive. You are creating and strengthening a new neurological pathway.
It is not that it is not seeing the negative anymore, but it is task oriented, so if it knows that you are going to need to think of things to be grateful for at the end of the day, it is going to make sure that you have at least a couple of examples in mind in your memory bank.
And when you do this regularly for a long enough period of time, it become a habit, one that will give you a large pool of conscious positive experiences to draw from.
And you will also remember that it is not only the big things that make us happy but also all the little things that create a chain of good through out your day.
A Challenge for you!
So today I invite You, I challenge You, to think of 3 to 5 things you are grateful for that day, for 21 days. Let’s create this new habit of Gratitude.
So watch this space, I will be posting here everyday with my list and also on Facebook and I hope you can join and share with the group what you are grateful for on a daily basis.
And let’s see what Gratitude impacts will have on our life.
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