It has been a little over a month since the beginning of the year.
Traditionally, the beginning of the year warrants Resolutions!
So like most, I did set some resolutions for myself. I am happy to say that I have followed up on certain, and less happy to say that like most people, most of my resolutions have been … ALMOST… forgotten.
So I decided to look into why we set some goals, and … why we don’t follow up on them.
The most obvious reason is that we don’t really care about the resolutions/goals we set. We follow convention and we are just following a trend. So it goes to say that we are not invested in those goals, and it becomes an easy things to forget.
So why do we stick with some resolutions and not with others?
Looking into my own set of Resolutions, I can see that I was more motivated by the expected outcomes of certain resolutions (and no surprise here I stuck with it) and I could not see the benefits of others (and I did not follow them through! :-))
So the solution seems obvious right?!
Only choose goals that you are motivated with!
If only life could be so simple!
Well, the trick is that most of us have to set goals that we are not necessarily excited about. And so following up on them becomes a chore! And our chances of success are not as good as they could be!
What can you do to change that?
For those of you who have been following me, you will know that I am a big believer in the idea that if you change your perspective, you change your life.
1 – The Why and the What?
The first step is to clarify the results you desire. You have set your goals for a reason. Without a clear and compelling vision for what you want, NOW, Today, you won’t be able to find lasting motivation, let alone hit your goal.
So define your whys and your whats. What is it that you are really trying to achieve? And Why do you want to achieve that goal?
Say you want to lose weight, the what would have to be more specific than just loosing weight. It would be to set a specific number to lose. Be honest and realistic. How much would it be reasonable to lose and how much do you really need to lose? It would be too easy to set a weight loss that would be so extreme that you would put your health to risk. Set a too easy target (because you have always succeeded in losing that amount easily), you will not try hard and you will stop at some point, because it is too easy!
The why will allow you to define why you want to achieve that goal.
Back to the goal of loosing weight. If you decide you want to lose weight because it is what everybody else is doing, the chance of long-term success is really low. But if you decide that you need to lose some weight and become a healthier version of yourself because you want to be able to spend time running around with your kids in the garden as you can not get enough of their laughter and their happiness, you will achieve that goal.
Overtime you will doubt or falter, but you will remember the end game, running around with your laughing children and you will push through the doubts.
The what and why will allow you to become crystal clear on your goals and will motivate you to the end. Never ever underestimate the power of your mind. Be crystal clear and get excited (Change your perspective!) about your end game! Always!
2 – Get the best tools for results.
Sometimes, motivation is the fuel but we need system and tools that will allow us to succeed in the best and most efficient way.
Get the best help you can. It could be that you enroll your friends, your family. It could be that you post online and join a group with similar goals. It could be that you choose the best possible team to achieve your end of year goals… No matter what it is, once you are motivated and you are crystal clear on your goal, you need to ensure that you will have the best support to achieve your goals.
Remember the power of a team.
So back to our example of loosing weight. If this person does not change their whole eating habit from the start, it might get more complicated. This person will need to get support at home and around them. Having a nutritionist or a support group will be good. If for example, their partner is not ready yet for that change, it could really be a double challenge. The partner may not adhere to the change, and may challenge the change by resisting putting the person choice of food on the table.
So explaining and showing the commitment, explaining the why and the what to everybody and getting the support of the group is paramount.
3 – Start taking Massive Action!
It may seem simple, but think about it. How many times have you ever had a fantastic idea? Or a business proposal… And you were all fired up just talking about it, you had the vision, you had the tools, … BUT
you told yourself, I will act on this later….
And later became NEVER!
Don’t blame yourself, we all do that! I do it! Everybody does!
The problem is if you are set to change something, you NEED to take action NOW! And in order to start on the right note, I would say you NEED to take MASSIVE Action NOW.
Never leave an idea, especially a good one, without taking an immediate action toward it. Maybe it is to set up a meeting to discuss the plan. Maybe it is to make a phone call and start telling people about this idea… Anything to start the momentum.
One caveat though, you need to know yourself!
You need to act based on your way for taking action. There would be no point in saying to everybody you need to start going to gym 7 times a week. For some people, it will be a turn off. But maybe saying to the same person, you need to actually move more and jump off the bus just one stop before every day, will have that person, say “yes I can do that, it is not too much” and this person is more likely to follow-up with that. It is important to know what is called your personal blueprint, how you create meaning and emotions.
We are animal of habits.
We are going to move towards things that bring us pleasure and stay away from things that we perceive as painful or unpleasant. Always!
So, find a way to make working towards your goal meaningful and pleasant for you. You are not anybody else. Find your meaning. Find things that you enjoy doing that are going to take you closer to your goal with a smile on your face.
Enjoy the process.
So remember if you are going to set a goal for yourself!
Know your what and your why!
Get the best tools for you
Take Massive actions that will bring happiness to you!
If you need help with achieving your goals, then don’t hesitate and contact me at email@example.com and let’s talk.